Maybe it's not a horrible thing to be stuck inside where there is air conditioning when it's 98 degrees out, but this wasn't in our plans for a Saturday off. When am I going to learn that I can't plan anything? Ever again. I have been having a little bit of anxiety again about how hard it will be to go back home and try and live normally again. The idea of booking appointments and working is hard to swallow. Going back, I will have to work more then ever. I worry I won't be able to bite my tongue when asked questions that I have literally poured my heart out about in this blog. I lose it in grocery store isles when I hear mom's complaining about their kids having a cold. I have caught myself scowling at mom's who's babies are wrapped in hemp baby carriers in whole foods wanting to yell out, "it won't protect her." I feel absolute disgust when I see parents yelling at their kids and physically threatening them. Do they not realize how lucky they are to have what they have?
I get scanxiety* at even just the thought of the upcoming visits back here. I have always been a planner. Now, I find the thought of planning anything in the future gets my heart racing. The kids would LOVE to have a dog again. I had originally promised that after Anthony started Kindergarten (and I had more time to train it) this could be a possibility. Not now. Who knows what our future holds. Part of my brain tells me that we still have to go on living our lives and not think too far into the future. Part of me says it would be completely irresponsible to even consider anything that can't be cancelled or returned.
Denny and I had a long chat late into last night about how "lucky" (and I use that term loosely) we were that the situation worked out the way it did. With Anthony being the age he is, it made us all able to be here as a family this time. If the tables had been turned and it was Anthony, would we have been able to take Kayla out of second grade to be here as a family? Probably not! So, it's kind of strange mixture of emotions... grateful and sad. So scared that the only thing that keeps us so positive is being here together. I am afraid to think of what it would be like if we were split up. Just when I get all wrapped up in my own problems, I walk downstairs and see a beautiful vivacious girl, just about Kayla's age, who will not be going home. She will be kept comfortable as the cancer eventually invades. My heart will ache as we watch her parents leave St.Jude for the last time. They don't get the luxury of experiencing *scanxiety. It is not fair. Not fair at all! So, I try and focus on the fact that we will be bringing our daughter home. No matter how scary the rest seems to us right now, we need to stay focused on that. The rest will come as it will. It's already planned out. We just don't get the sneak preview... nor do we want it!
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Usage: The scanxiety began a few weeks before her scan and continued to increase until she received her results!
Family = LOVE